But the precept doesn't define "love." The word is one of the most ambiguous in the English language. I addressed that in "Monster Is in the Eye of the Beholder," where Kaitrin Oliva is discussing the concept of love with the Kal Communicator Hetsip-dohná:
"It was under the apple trees,” mumbled Robbie.
Prf. Doone made a little throat noise as if she were attempting to laugh, or trying not to. “The important word there is vows. Did you and Sharlina make any vows?”
“No,” he said somewhat disgustedly. “We just … did it. There were a few empty words, though. More like grunts.”
Prf. Doone appeared to be strangling again. “The point of that Precept is that ceremonial words or contracts can’t make a union holy. When two people can achieve a truly holy union, it’s a highly intangible and fragile thing, spiritually blessed and very personal and unique. That state can be called marriage, whether there is a ceremony or not."
“That never happened,” he said. “I’m not sure that sort of thing exists.”